She Loves me.....She Loves me Not...

A statement punctuated by each pull of a flowers petals until the answer to one of the worlds oldest questions stares us right in the face: and we still don’t get it.

(For if the Goddess can find me Lovable, then surely I must be...)

(...and if she doesn’t Love me, then must I suffer and make all those around me suffer as well?)

At some point in our lives, all of us are searching for validation. Some of us are aware of the search, while others continue to look in an unconscious state, wandering through their lives in a seemingly un-awakened state, yearning to find that THING. That THING, that would resolve the emotional hunger pangs which we cannot seem to get a solid enough grasp upon. More often, it has us flailing about wildly, open armed and frantically trying to grasp smoke.

Over time it becomes apparent, (usually after repeated heartbreak and letdown from unfulfilled experiences) that we will never actually satiate that hunger or emotional need by putting ourselves out there on the block and trying to find that special someone who will magically ...”do the trick.”

No, it isn’t until we finally reach that point in life where the sum total of our experiences begin to develop and illustrate a pattern to us that we have the opportunity to become aware that what we are doing isn’t going to be the solution. Unfortunately, many of us will have fallen by the wayside into self-destructive behavior as a direct result of NOT being able to make that imagined connection LONG before they have reached the point where they will see the answer. Why? Because on SOME level they will internalize their lack of success and misinterpret the reasons why they are not succeeding. They will believe that the reasons for not making a connection are because they are not “good enough” or “not together enough”, or not “mature enough”. These are the slights that we may have judged others with and eventually subconsciously judge ourselves with when it becomes apparent that we have had no more success than those we have judged in the past. In fact, most of the judgments we tend to make about others seem to stem from fears that we may have about ourselves but want to displace away from ourselves on to others.

It’s all so unnecessary.

We never really know what it is that we are looking for. Our subconscious works in mysterious ways. Is it our subconscious, or is it our Higher Self.....a Spirit Guide, and Angel....or even the Divine, that guides our behavior or choices?

Choices.

That is the very essence of what life is about here on planet Earth School.

Our choices define many things. They define our personality, our interaction with everyone and everything from our closest mates to our position in society and our reputation in the world.

I remember a book that comes to mind on my parents bookshelf that I saw as a child. “I’m okay, You’re okay”. I haven’t read that book yet, but something tells me that I might ought to. It seems to possibly be directed in a similar vein.

So it is at this point that I become aware of just how much of the world’s expressed pain is the direct result of all those people trying to run from their very basic fear of ....”not being okay”. The end result of which becomes, obviously, that we are NOT BEING OKAY!

As we learn to love ourselves and perceive the Divinity within ourselves, it becomes far far easier to accept others as being of the Divine as well.
Think for a moment, what the world might be like if everyone here could realize that although bad things can happen to us all, that we are all basically..........okay. We would no longer have the need to prove to others that we were NOT okay and therefore would not continue along our path of “personal bests” in the process of demonstrating to others that we are really......NOT.....okay.

So. An object in motion tends to stay in motion. (whether in forward or reverse.......you catch my drift?)

Let’s move forward. Let’s believe that we are okay. Let’s believe that those around us are also, okay. Let’s believe that the Divine Creator really does love us. (hey, why not? what have we got to lose, right?)
Let’s believe that our Divine Creator can show up in cameo appearances in the eyes of those around us. (Kind of like Agent Smith moves through available bodies in the film “The Matrix”)

Let’s give ourselves a break, and offer ourselves the CHANCE to really FEEL.......Okay.........Connected.....Loved.....Worthy.

Because when the many petals are plucked from that poor flower, all that remains is ONE.

Love Chiron’

Smile and the world smiles with you...

I think that one of the most interesting discovery’s that I have made recently is just what the impact of a smile is on a persons face.

I recently went to meet someone who I had never seen in person before, and although I looked right at her, didn’t recognize her because she wasn’t smiling. Yet the moment that she began to smile, I knew her immediately. I had no idea that a simple genuine smile could alter the topography of a face to that degree. Julie really does have a beautiful smile.

If she had not smiled, I would have thought that I had missed her and that she wasn’t actually in the room at all.

What does this say about the impact of a smile in general in our lives on a daily basis?

How are other aspects of our lives altered because of a missing smile?

According to my mechanic, a person can burn forty calories a day if you laugh for just 15 minutes a day. (No wonder he is so thin!) Dan almost always has a smile on his face.

It makes me wonder how many of the potential opportunities may be initiated simply because we are smiling.

A simple genuine smile can take your average everyday person and turn them into an attractive thing of beauty.

The charm school instructor in the move “Point of no return” instructs our heroine Bridget Fonda (one of my all-time favorite dream gals) to “Always smile when you enter a room, it puts others at ease”.

I’m quite certain that a smile also causes our own body to react emotionally as well. Especially if the smile is genuine.

Sometimes it becomes difficult to smile though. The saying “Grin and bare it” comes to mind. We have heard that saying so often that I think it has somewhat lost it’s original comedic appeal. In some cases people don’t even know to what “bare it” refers to.

But in the end, (cackling) it doesn’t matter. As I have stated before, all of what is......is merely a process of coming to be, and then falling away.
What matters to us as members of earth-school, is that we fully understand the lack of relevance of all the small things in our lives, (the material possessions, the level of our popularity, the mark that we leave behind us on this world in terms of our accomplishments).

All of it pales in comparison to the value of how we learn to simply treat each other.

When our life is done, when it is all over, if we have left behind a memory of our smile in the hearts and minds of those we have loved, then we have lived a rich and rewarding life.

Love and Respect

There is no “THEM”....

There is only.....”US”


Re-SPECT

Looking at the word, it seems to be code for an older wiser meaning than what the commonly accepted vernacular seems to represent in these times.

Respect. To HONOR. Re=to repeat. Spect= to look. The act of Respecting is to RE LOOK. To take another perspective, to re-examine. To re-evaluate. To honor another viewpoint.

In my world, it becomes apparent to me that the only way that I can ever truly respect (or honor) myself, is to “show others respect”. For, as I recognize that I am connected to all things, I also recognize that to respect others IS to respect myself.

It necessarily follows then, that if I can NOT respect (or show honor to) others, I can not honor myself. (because of that little snag where I am connected and basically indivisible from all else, whether I am aware of that or not)

So I guess this means I have to honor other ........everything?

Yup, looks that way.

Because it is all but an extension of what I am. Some other way of expressing that witch is me.

Whether I am gazing upon another race, religion, philosophy, expression of sexuality, expression of the body politic, belief of being (or non being as the case may be) perspective on reality, or of course, most importantly....
who makes the best car.

It’s all part of me. As I stretch my mind around that......FACT.

I am humbled. Fortunately, God gave me an energy, a tool, a catalyst to help me accept that which seems foreign or prohibitively distant to me.

He gave me the ability to Love. All I need to do, to learn to accept all that there is that is out there.....that is OTHER forms of ME........is to Love.

As I learn to open my heart, and Love freely, I discover that my heart increases it’s capacity, it’s potential, it’s strength, to Love.

John was really telling us the truth. All we need is Love.