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Sunday, June 10, 2007
Cold
Some people take pride in their ability to be cold. How sad is that?
I'm surprised this post ends in only one sentence, Chiron. Perhaps there isn't too much else to add. Some of us have had the misfortune of being on the receiving end of this sort of thing, and it's almost imperceptible to people who aren't a part of that interaction. I know I'm one of them. This is what I've learned so far:
Some people don't know what they do. Others know what they do, but use their ability to hurt others as a yardstick of personal power: The more one is able to hurt another person without being caught, the cleverer they must be-- therefore, more powerful. It is not only sad but infuriating when we meet a person of the second kind. One wonders what happened to make them so harsh.
In many cases, though, it's not worth trying to figure out. Many malicious acts have no logical meaning. They are done for the sake of being done, and of benefiting from them.
If one actually pays attention to people who claim to have been hurt, look and see if the accused person is a beneficiary of that hurt. If so, then it's probably safe to assume that the connection is real. Benefits usually come in the forms of material wealth, a heightened sense of self, people who rally to the beneficiary's camp, etc. This is actually the sort of thing a malicious beneficiary is after. The one who is hurt continues to hurt, and may become angry at the injustice of this situation. The beneficiary likes to claim that this sort of response is proof that the injured is a liar...or crazy...or both. This is emotional abuse in the highest degree.
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I'm surprised this post ends in only one sentence, Chiron. Perhaps there isn't too much else to add. Some of us have had the misfortune of being on the receiving end of this sort of thing, and it's almost imperceptible to people who aren't a part of that interaction. I know I'm one of them. This is what I've learned so far:
Some people don't know what they do. Others know what they do, but use their ability to hurt others as a yardstick of personal power: The more one is able to hurt another person without being caught, the cleverer they must be-- therefore, more powerful. It is not only sad but infuriating when we meet a person of the second kind. One wonders what happened to make them so harsh.
In many cases, though, it's not worth trying to figure out. Many malicious acts have no logical meaning. They are done for the sake of being done, and of benefiting from them.
If one actually pays attention to people who claim to have been hurt, look and see if the accused person is a beneficiary of that hurt. If so, then it's probably safe to assume that the connection is real. Benefits usually come in the forms of material wealth, a heightened sense of self, people who rally to the beneficiary's camp, etc. This is actually the sort of thing a malicious beneficiary is after. The one who is hurt continues to hurt, and may become angry at the injustice of this situation. The beneficiary likes to claim that this sort of response is proof that the injured is a liar...or crazy...or both. This is emotional abuse in the highest degree.
It's also something children do, often.
Have you been hurt recently?
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